This Is Parenting: It's Ok To Cry
“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.” –Bette Davis.
When I was a kid I would dream about what it would be like to be a parent. I know most kids don’t dream about being a parent. But you have to understand I was in foster care, of course, I dreamed about being a parent. I didn’t think anybody would adopt me. I had the name : Chris, savannah, John (which I did name my oldest son), star, & Christina.
I was told over and over again my birth mother really wanted me and fought for me until 4 years old She just wasn’t capable at the time to be a mother.
I didn’t want a mom anymore I just wanted to be a mom myself. Let’s be honest it’s not all hugs and roses!
Let’s talk parenting fails!
1) Gentle Parenting method- I was and still am kinda sorta one of THOSE moms! I try really hard not to raise my voice, I try really hard to be a calm parent. But.... I lose my shit - I mean common on I have FIVE TODDLERS! I constantly have to say take a step back, deep breathe, and go hide in the bathroom eat some Oreos!
2)Thinking to myself: “My kids will never say cuss words or act like that ” as I watch other kids throw fits in the middle of the store.
Let me tell you a story! My oldest is probably my hardest kiddo. When he was three, he wanted something at the grocery store so bad.... so he, of course, threw himself on the floor and screamed and kicked. What did I do?!?! I had a newborn daughter who had just gotten out of NICU and a 2-year-old and probably was 12 weeks pregnant. I sat on the floor and cried Too. Hormones got the best of me. I still didn’t buy whatever he wanted. But I totally sat on the floor and cried In the middle of the store. I have also said if you don’t get up I’m going to leave you and then pretend to walk away. But don’t get me wrong they can be little angels in the store. parenting fail....
My kids will never steal! I will teach them to be better!
You know those damn Kinder Eggs.... yea those annoying chocolate + candies! Yeah... my kids LOVE THEM! That fancy hazelnut ball of joy! I have to pat my kids down and make them shake their clothes because they love them so much. My daughter tried pretending she had boobs with them...🤦🏼♀️... mother of the year!!! So if you see me patting them down that’s what I’m looking for.
Leashes—— yes I said leashes..... I tried using them my son just laid on the ground and then it looks like I’m dragging a kid across the floor..... my daughter loves them! They have unicorn and monkey ones!
So what is my point?!?!
Parenting is hard! DEFINITELY not what I dreamed it would be. But at the end of the day, it is the best thing ever to get a hug & an I LOVE you mom.... and yes my kids have told me they hate me.... and you know what It’s okay.
HUGS to all the PARENTS out there losing their shit!!!
Here is a photo of our parenting fail of the day!